The Gift of Solitude & Silence
The author, Richard J. Foster, wrote a great book entitled, Celebration of Discipline, and he begins the chapter on solitude in the following way:
"Jesus calls us from loneliness to solitude. The fear of being left alone petrifies people. A new child in the neighbourhood sobs to her mother, 'No one ever plays with me.' A college freshman yearns for his high school days when he was the centre of attention: 'Now I'm a nobody.' A business executive sits dejected in her office, powerful, yet alone. An old woman lies in a nursing home waiting to go 'Home.'"
The COVID-19 pandemic has forced the whole world into isolation, and although some restrictions have been lifted, all of us experience much less social interaction than before, some more than others. Even though most introverts have revelled in this forced isolation, we have all suffered from loneliness and have tried to fill in the emptiness and silence with radios, music, movies, series or comfort food, to name a few. Unfortunately, these activities may leave us even more empty than before.
Jesus shows us an alternative: solitude. But what is solitude? If loneliness refers to emptiness and fear, solitude is fulfillment and peace of mind. Many times in Jesus's life on earth, He willingly retreated to quiet places to seek solitude. After Jesus's baptism He spent 40 days alone in the desert (Matthew 4:1-11). The night before His death on a cross, He went to pray in solitude at the garden of Gethsemane (Matthew 26:36-47). Foster says that "There is the freedom to be alone, not in order to be away from people but in order to hear the divine Whisper better." Lord Byron similarly said it is "in solitude, where we are least alone." The quiet contentment of solitude helps us to hear and see the hand of our Creator at work.
How do we practice solitude? How do we keep our silences and isolation from turning into loneliness? A first step would be not to try to immediately fill up our silences. This can sometimes feel scary, but it is so important. Treasure those quiet moments after you've woken up in the morning, drinking your coffee or tea, listening to the chirping birds. Don't immediately reply when in conversation. Take advantage of the quietness for contemplation. James 1:19 tells us as believers to "be swift to hear" and "slow to speak" (KJV). All of us have said things that we now regret.
Silences and solitude can also be a great time for prayer and reading the Bible. The apostle Paul tells us that when we open up our hearts to God in prayer "the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep (y)our hearts and minds through Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:7).
“That which was from the beginning, which we have heard, which we have seen with our eyes, which we have looked upon, and our hands have handled, of the Word of life; (For the life was manifested, and we have seen it, and bear witness, and shew unto you that eternal life, which was with the Father, and was manifested unto us;) That which we have seen and heard declare we unto you, that ye also may have fellowship with us: and truly our fellowship is with the Father, and with his Son Jesus Christ. And these things write we unto you, that your joy may be full.” 1 John 1:1-4 KJV
“This then is the message which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth: But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin. If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.” 1 John 1:5-10 KJV
“Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God. For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also aboundeth by Christ. And whether we be afflicted, it is for your consolation and salvation, which is effectual in the enduring of the same sufferings which we also suffer: or whether we be comforted, it is for your consolation and salvation.” 2 Corinthians 1:3-6 KJV
“Now thanks be unto God, which always causeth us to triumph in Christ, and maketh manifest the savour of his knowledge by us in every place. For we are unto God a sweet savour of Christ, in them that are saved, and in them that perish: To the one we are the savour of death unto death; and to the other the savour of life unto life. And who is sufficient for these things? For we are not as many, which corrupt the word of God: but as of sincerity, but as of God, in the sight of God speak we in Christ.” 2 Corinthians 2:14-17 KJV
“But if any have caused grief, he hath not grieved me, but in part: that I may not overcharge you all. Sufficient to such a man is this punishment, which was inflicted of many. So that contrariwise ye ought rather to forgive him, and comfort him, lest perhaps such a one should be swallowed up with overmuch sorrow. Wherefore I beseech you that ye would confirm your love toward him. For to this end also did I write, that I might know the proof of you, whether ye be obedient in all things.To whom ye forgive any thing, I forgive also: for if I forgave any thing, to whom I forgave it, for your sakes forgave I it in the person of Christ; lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices.” 2 Corinthians 2:5-11 KJV
“Seeing then that we have such hope, we use great plainness of speech: and not as Moses, which put a veil over his face, that the children of Israel could not stedfastly look to the end of that which is abolished: but their minds were blinded: for until this day remaineth the same vail untaken away in the reading of the old testament; which vail is done away in Christ. But even unto this day, when Moses is read, the vail is upon their heart. Nevertheless when it shall turn to the Lord, the vail shall be taken away. Now the Lord is that Spirit: and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty. But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.” 2 Corinthians 3:12-18 KJV
“Now I rejoice, not that ye were made sorry, but that ye sorrowed to repentance: for ye were made sorry after a godly manner, that ye might receive damage by us in nothing. For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death. For behold this selfsame thing, that ye sorrowed after a godly sort, what carefulness it wrought in you, yea, what clearing of yourselves, yea, what indignation, yea, what fear, yea, what vehement desire, yea, what zeal, yea, what revenge! In all things ye have approved yourselves to be clear in this matter.” 2 Corinthians 7:9-11 KJV
“But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us. We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed; always bearing about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our body. For we which live are always delivered unto death for Jesus' sake, that the life also of Jesus might be made manifest in our mortal flesh. So then death worketh in us, but life in you.” 2 Corinthians 4:7-12 KJV
“For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory; while we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.
“For the love of Christ constraineth us; because we thus judge, that if one died for all, then were all dead: and that he died for all, that they which live should not henceforth live unto themselves, but unto him which died for them, and rose again. Wherefore henceforth know we no man after the flesh: yea, though we have known Christ after the flesh, yet now henceforth know we him no more. Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new."